What to do if your child is using drugs and alcohol and does not see any harm in it.
Ask them to describe to you just what it is they are getting from their drug use.
Make it clear to them that you want to try to understand it from their point of view.
You will need to set some clear rules if drugs are being used in your home. Depending upon what type of drugs your child is using and their methods of use, you might want to establish if they are using in the least harmful way possible. A harm reduction approach is one most often used by counselling and intervention organisations.
It should also be stressed that in most cases the use of drugs will be 'recreational'. Most young people using drugs today are those using cannabis, cocaine, Methamphetamines (includes speed and ecstasy) and alcohol on nights out at raves, parties and at clubs.
Most of these users will take good care of each other and themselves and come to no immediate harm. This is not to say that they are using illegal substances or abuse legal drugs. Long term usage and heavy use may not lead to long term damage.
Sometimes when your child is completely wrong they have to learn for themselves and make their own mistakes. In many cases there is no way they are going to do as you say or not do something on your say so alone.
Try to locate someone your child respects and is able communicate with them about the potential dangers of continuing their lifestyle with a threat. Communication with you child is paramount. It must continue. They need you help and continuing love and understanding.
Don't close the door on further discussion with you child even if eye to eye communication with them is not working.
Leave them with the understanding that you will be always there for them and strive to keep the lines of communications open for them. Some drug users fail to maintain that communication with their parents.
Remember, remaining calm and listening is a more sensible approach and then taking practical, vital action. By entering into a sensible quasi contract with your teenagers and accepting there is an issue requiring intervention, a positive outcome is more achievable.